If we could control events, most of us would never want our elders to
be so sick that they need the care of a nursing home, especially homes
that are still operating in the dark ages, as some of them still are.
Many homes have now moved forward into person-centered care, and
reluctant caregivers often find their elders thrive, once they have
adjusted. Still, it’s hard.
For many caregivers, placing an elder in a home spells failure on the
part of the caregiver. Even when carers know they’ve done all they can,
a subconscious nagging voice often tells them they are giving up on
their parents or spouse. I’m here to tell you that you are not giving
up. You are just getting help.